THE WEIGHT OF PERFECTION


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From the moment I first grasped the weight of expectation, I knew I was destined to achieve. Not because I wished for it, but because the world had already carved my path, one paved with excellence and admiration. A child prodigy, an inspiration, a name whispered among peers with reverence. I walked hallways bathed in golden light, the chosen one, the beacon, the daughter who could never falter.

They say pressure creates diamonds, but does anyone ever ask what happens when the weight becomes too much? When the cracks begin to form beneath the dazzling surface?

My journey began in a small town, where whispers of my brilliance spread like wildfire. Teachers called me extraordinary; neighbors told their children to look up to me. I became the yardstick of success, the gold standard, the embodiment of every parent's unspoken dream. Bevin, the key reference. And so, I lived up to it. I surpassed it. I carried the burden with grace, earning my place in the most prestigious high school, outshining, outpacing, outperforming.

But at what cost?

Now, I stand at the peak of my ambition, a law student at the best university, draped in the heavy cloak of admiration. Younger generations see Bevin as an icon, their eyes gleaming with the hope of emulating my footsteps. My parents' pride is my compass, their unwavering faith my fuel. To them, I am perfect—unwavering, unshaken, an impenetrable force of intellect and discipline.

Yet, behind closed doors, when the world is silent and the applause fades, I sit with my thoughts, heavy as lead. The walls close in, the expectations suffocate, and the cracks widen. Does anyone see the battle waged behind this polished exterior? The silent wars fought in the depths of my mind?

There are nights when exhaustion gnaws at my bones, where my reflection mocks me, asking, "How much longer can you keep this up?" But I shake off the doubt, straighten my posture, and rehearse the perfection that is expected of me. Because in my world, there is no room for failure.

Depression is an uninvited guest in my castle of achievements. It lingers in the shadows, whispering doubts, dragging me down when I am expected to rise. But I battle on, because what choice do I have? I have spent a lifetime building this image, brick by flawless brick. To falter now would mean undoing years of reverence, of admiration, of pride reflected in my parents’ eyes.

And so, I conquer. I rise, not because I want to, but because I must. Because the world does not know me without my victories. Because my worth has been etched into the fabric of success. Because the weight of perfection is a burden I cannot set down.

So I ask—what happens when the diamond no longer wishes to shine? When the golden child yearns to rest? When the girl behind the admiration wants to be seen, not as an icon, but as a human being?

Perhaps, one day, I will know the answer. But today is not that day. Today, I carry on, because that is the only life I have ever known.

Penned by Bevin Wangari Ogato, a prolific student of the law at the University of Nairobi

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